In seeking perfection, ironically you are bound to find something wrong which will leave you shocked, angry, frustrated and disappointed.
This is because striving for nothing but perfection means your expectations are probably very high and most likely unrealistic and unachievable.
Perfection is an ideal, a concept with no meaning so aiming for perfection means you set yourself up for failure by aiming for an ideal that does not really exist. This will eventually leave you feeling anxious and depressed.
It’s easy to lose our sense of self in today’s world, where we are constantly exposed to, over-rated film stars and bombarded by reality TV stars and manufactured celebrities. The media forces the ideal of perfection and so called role models on us and encourages us to believe this is what we should be aspiring to. As a result, many women and even men feel uncomfortable about their bodies, or lives. As a result of being trapped by the fear of never reaching perfection, low self-esteem increases.
The idea of perfection is a troubling aspect and a distorted truth of modern society, one that is not able to deal with variety and difference, and is in fear of being imperfect to its own detriment. We believe that striving for perfection will put us in a safe position where we’ll be untouchable, impenetrable and free of the judgement of others. The thing is, we must acknowledge that no matter what we do we will always be judged unless we lock ourselves in the house without any human interaction (which is not recommended).
In leading our lives, we should be guided by our instinct and not by what is considered the ‘norm’ or perfection. Only when we do this can we realize that giving our heart a say, is much more rewarding than giving superficial and abstract status the priority.
Would you really put others expectations of you before your own happiness? When you are attracted to someone you would like to be in a relationship with but feel that individual is not perfect, ask yourself according to whose standards; yours, or those of your friends and family? When you desire a career change but the job you aspire to do, doesn’t tick all the boxes on your perfection list; is this your idea of perfection or is it societies point of view that your dream job wouldn’t be perfect for you?
What is perfection and what does it mean to you?
Well the answer to that question is found by asking another question; does perfection even exist as a concept except in the dictionary? Perfection is really just a standard you unconsciously buy into, a set of ideals created by others in society, not just the media but also your family, friends, work colleagues and community, well everybody else but you.
Perfection is an illusion, therefore the pursuit of perfection isn’t the pursuit of happiness. Ask yourself if seeking perfection really makes you happy? The more you ask yourself these kinds of question, the closer you get to what perfection really means for you.
The truth is there is not, one universal view on perfection, we all have different views of what perfection is supposed to be and from this point of view perfection is useless and meaningless. Accept only your own personal definition of perfection and remember that uniqueness is more interesting than perfection, so proudly express the essence of who you are and where you want to be.
5 Tips for Perfectionists:
1- Ignore the self-sabotaging voice in your head, learn to love and accept yourself because you are perfect just the way you are.
2- Are you a perfectionist procrastinator? Sometimes we want to be perfect in everything we do and if we are not perfect then we don’t do it. Remember that something done, even if it is not perfect, is better than nothing at all.
3- Become an optimist by embracing reality. Know and accept that you’ll never be perfect because there is no such thing. When you are willing to fail, all of a sudden you have the freedom to just get out there and do it!
4- Treat life as a learning experience not as a test and try not to be limited by an all or nothing, or win or lose mind-set. Shift your goals from being perfect to being good enough and look at the positive side of a failure because there is always a lesson to be learn in failure.
5- Remember that everything happens for a reason, trust the universe to support you in your journey of life.