You should just go through today, take it one day at a time, even one hour at a time, going through each day, starting new each morning is what to do about it. And tonight repeat, fall asleep blissfully, and in waking hours don’t think, just jump in the shower. A bit after, go out for a walk. Come back to work some more, pick up where you gave up last night, and rinse and repeat again and again, because life goes on and on… So unless you give up for good, in life, carrying on is all there is to do about it.
Your Past is Holding You Back?
What To Do About It?
Call ABC, Take A Cab, Don’t Look Back.
ABC Signs: Your Past Is Holding You Back. What To Do About It?
Problem A
Constantly longing for how things used to be, you talk too much about what was, and what could have been? If only you said or didn’t do that…
Frozen in the past, your mind is finding it difficult to accept what is, it refuses to resign itself to what cannot be changed, it is not liking the present fate and has even less creativity left to imagine a happy future.
The Solution is to focus your intention on the most optimistic radio station of your mind. Twice a day, from 10 to 100 times each time per line, repeat the following positive affirmations:
17 Amazing Affirmations For Letting The Past – Go Away.
- There is no shame in failing or making mistakes, I’m going to upgrade, adjust or correct myself.
- I’m not going to sit and watch my life waste itself in self pity or frustration, the time has come to move on to the next lesson, there is always something new that comes after death.
- I release the painful feelings that came from disappointing experiences.
- I’m not going to regret for the rest of my life. I’m fixing the mistakes I’ve made by starting over and better.
- I’m only human, I stop judging my unfruitful choices too harshly.
- Holding on to old beliefs and to fixed outcomes that have outlived their purpose, isn’t healthy for me. I’m ready to receive newer ideas.
- I unburden my sorrow from all past mistakes, I understand that all unwise decisions served me well since I needed time and more experimenting to better myself.
- I’m done letting unpleasant thoughts of yesterday occupy my head space of today.
- Round the clock, I’m consumed by blissful energy.
- There will be other dreams as reasons to live, and perhaps afterward there will be other lives.
- My heart has no room for fear, I acknowledge it but I give anxiety no power whatsoever.
- Every cell in my body is happy as it absorbs only loving energy, my body radiates colorful sun rays of joy.
- In my life, a change is needed. I’m going to pause and analyze what went wrong and how to not repeat the past again. No settling, I deserve better than this.
- Free from destructive energies, I trust the flow of life and do my part to ease the release of my past with willful intent.
- Feeling fearful doesn’t affect me. Fear cannot control me.
- Everything is manageable if I keep cool. Slowly with deep breaths, I’m patient at outlasting moments of panic, this situation is under control.
- Because I need to grow I let go.
Problem B
Afraid of stretching your comfort zone; inflexible to change.
Often, if you’re afraid of change, it’s the result of having learned to let fear hold you back, it’s a sign that fear has convinced you of how comfortable, how safe pretty and cosy things are just the way they are. But the greatest rewards are often found in the unknown. A positive day and a brighter future rarely emerged from the inflexibility of sticking to a stubborn plan anyway. If today resisting change has become habitual, it is a consequence of not having ventured enough out of your comfort zone previously.
Solution
When fears arise, acknowledge that fearing change is worrying about a future situation, the fear is only a feeling, a message, or an instinctive warning asking you to act on something but it does not make the ephemeral threats real. The mind plays tricks, adventuring for too long into its dark narrow pathways freezes courage. So look on the side optimism instead, see the light of opportunity is calling for you from the end of all your cave tunnels, follow the courageous footsteps to the nearest exit.
First, take a small step out of your comfort zone by trying a new thing or doing something you have never done.
Second, walk in the inspirational nature that’s left around us, see how like the seasons, everything changes, dies, resurrects itself. And see how each new beginning is a better beginning; how everything evolves, everything is flexible and under constant self recycling. Thus, practicing being more flexible is a wonderful tool for furthering the release of yourself from what was. Start breaking old habits bit by bit, and in time newer ones will build stairs out of your comfort zone for you.
BROKEN DREAMS QUOTES
“The dreams beneath my horizon stay untouched by the light now.” Neeraj Agnihotri
“She didn’t want to be reminded of her past or how different her present was from the future she’d taken for granted.” Freya North
“Life’s funny. You have to find a way to keep going, to keep laughing, even after you realize that none of your dreams will come true. When you realize that, there’s still so much of a life to get through.” Claire Messud
“Dreams and expectations also have the very dark flipside of disappointment, broken dreams.” James Franco
“What if you are just destined to get hurt, to be helplessly stuck in a point of time you no longer want to be?
Maybe life is all about trying to get up while you fall a little bit deeper in the pits of hell, each time you try not to…” Sanhita Baruah
“Hold fast to dreams, for if dreams die, life is a broken-winged bird that cannot fly.” Langston Hughes
“Sometimes a broken dream will make you sad or make you mean. Sometimes things ain’t bad as they seem.” Gordon Lightfoot
“Down below people were clipping by going nowhere fast. You could feel the long despairing history of the place. You could actually hear it, a low hum like the buzz of a sick bee that resonated with the fragments of a million broken dreams.” Sol Luckman
“Janie stood where he left her for unmeasured time and thought. She stood there until something fell off the shelf inside her. Then she went inside there to see what it was. It was her image of Jody tumbled down and shattered. But looking at it she saw that it never was the flesh and blood figure of her dreams. Just some thing she had grabbed up to drape her dreams over.” Zora Neale Hurston
“You wish you had not come. If there were not so many around, you would reach out your arms, with the prayer on your lips for it all to come back to you. It seems cruel, cruel, to give us such a vision; to let us dream and drift through heaven for six months, and then to take it out of our lives.” Erik Larson
“Let go of your expectations. The universe will do what it will. Sometimes your dreams will come true. Sometimes they won’t. Sometimes when you let go of a broken dream, another one gently takes its place. Be aware of what is, not what you would like to be, taking place.” Melody Beattie
“For all sad words of tongue and pen, The saddest are these, ‘It might have been’.” John Greenleaf Whittier
OPTIMISTIC QUOTES FOR PESSIMISTS
“Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise.” Victor Hugo
“Things are always better in the morning.” Harper Lee
“I am fundamentally an optimist. Whether that comes from nature or nurture, I cannot say. Part of being optimistic is keeping one’s head pointed toward the sun, one’s feet moving forward. There were many dark moments when my faith in humanity was sorely tested, but I would not and could not give myself up to despair. That way lays defeat and death.” Nelson Mandela
“You cannot control the behavior of others, but you can always choose how you respond to it.” Roy T. Bennett
“By four o’clock, I’ve discounted suicide in favor of killing everyone else in the entire world instead.” Warren Ellis
“I’m a pessimist because of intelligence, but an optimist because of will.” Antonio Gramsci
“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorns have roses.” Alphonse Karr
“You’ll never find a rainbow if you’re looking down.” Charlie Chaplin
“I meant to write about death, only life came breaking in as usual” Virginia Woolf
“TO BE HOPEFUL in bad times is not just foolishly romantic. It is based on the fact that human history is a history not only of cruelty, but also of compassion, sacrifice, courage, kindness.
What we choose to emphasize in this complex history will determine our lives. If we see only the worst, it destroys our capacity to do something. If we remember those times and places—and there are so many—where people have behaved magnificently, this gives us the energy to act, and at least the possibility of sending this spinning top of a world in a different direction.
And if we do act, in however small a way, we don’t have to wait for some grand utopian future. The future is an infinite succession of presents, and to live now as we think human beings should live, in defiance of all that is bad around us, is itself a marvelous victory.” Howard Zinn
“The longest way must have its close – the gloomiest night will wear on to a morning.” Harriet Beecher Stowe
“there’s no harm in hoping for the best as long as you’re prepared for the worst.” Stephen King
“Optimism is a strategy for making a better future. Because unless you believe that the future can be better, you are unlikely to step up and take responsibility for making it so.” Noam Chomsky
“We must assume every event has significance and contains a message that pertains to our questions…this especially applies to what we used to call bad things…the challenge is to find the silver lining in every event, no matter how negative.” James Redfield
Helpful Links:
10 Signs of an Emotionally Unavailable Partner
Is your relationship holding you back?
Get Past the Fear That’s Holding You Back
Problem C
Being let down in the past has left an indelible imprint on your bitter behavior causing distrust towards your current relationships and to compare them to exes. Caught up in the erroneous past beliefs, some have become pessimistic. As the sun sets, positivity about the future lessens, it’s as if in the heart of unfortunates, all relationships will always be the same. This is so because, for as long as present mindsets are influenced by past hurts, it’s complicated for all potential new partners to plant the seed of their full potential in wounded hearts.
Solution
Concentrate on your present relationship pleasing aspects but stretch your determination into a daily practice: For 21 days, each evening before you go to bed write a list of ‘3 Great Things’ that happened today to develop your relating skills into something more than what was before; Make the most out of what you have rather than what you don’t have. Also create a list of what the ideal partner qualities should be. If you’re doubting about what traits should go on this list, think of people who in your opinion are loyal, polite, funny, easy to communicate with, good, understand your personality and who support your life purpose with the kindness of thoughtful people’s energy that matches yours.
The point of those listing exercises is for you to deliberately search these characteristics in each new soul you interact with. Indeed, having such a great list of goodies in your mind will command your subconscious mind to consciously attract to you the right people in your life instead of investing time and energy into being in bad company with someone who drags you down. The ultimate goal is to rewire the self sabotaging patterns of thinking driving your instincts to act based on past experiences. So what are you waiting for? Don’t let the past hold you back any longer.
